“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.” James 3:17-18
Have you ever been in an argument where you were certain you were right, but the victory left you feeling worse than before? Perhaps it was with a friend, a family member, or at work. You might have proven your point, but instead of peace, there was lingering tension, and the relationship felt strained.
This is the nature of worldly wisdom. It pushes us to be quick with words, sharp with comebacks, and determined to win at all costs. It encourages us to fight for our reputation, to make sure we are heard, and to succeed no matter the impact on others. On the surface, this might seem admirable, and some may even praise you for your confidence. However, beneath it all, worldly wisdom often leaves us feeling empty, disconnected, and regretful, as though we’ve gained the argument but lost something much more important.
God’s wisdom is completely different. It’s not about winning the argument or being the most intelligent person in the room. It’s about knowing when to speak and when to remain silent, when to stand firm and when to let go. It values peace over pride, relationships over personal victories. God’s wisdom is pure, peace-loving, considerate, full of mercy, and bearing good fruit.
So, how can we apply this wisdom in our daily lives? Imagine a disagreement with your spouse where you’re absolutely certain you’re right. Instead of pressing to prove your point, you choose to listen carefully, to understand their perspective. That is godly wisdom in action. Or perhaps a friend says something hurtful, and your first instinct is to retaliate. But instead, you pause and respond with grace rather than revenge. These moments become opportunities to apply God’s wisdom, choosing peace over pride and understanding over winning.
Lord, help me to seek your wisdom each day. In moments of conflict, guide my thoughts, words, and actions. Teach me to choose peace over pride and grace over being right. Let your wisdom shape my relationships and bring honour to your name. Amen.
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kay.alli@legalview.co.uk