“Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, was one of the two who heard what John had said and who had followed Jesus. The first thing Andrew did was to find his brother Simon and tell him, ‘We have found the Messiah’ (that is, the Christ). And he brought him to Jesus. Jesus looked at him and said, ‘You are Simon son of John. You will be called Cephas’ (which, when translated, is Peter).” John 1:40-42
As followers of Christ, one of our primary callings is to make disciples and share the Good News. Inviting someone to church is an excellent opportunity to introduce them to the gospel and to the community of believers. But how can we effectively invite people in a way that is both respectful and impactful? Jesus showed love to everyone, regardless of their beliefs or background. Treat non-Christians with kindness, respect, and genuine care.
1. Invite with Christ-like Love and Compassion
Bible Principle: Jesus set the ultimate example of inviting others through love and compassion. In Matt 9:36-38, we see Jesus’ heart for the lost:
“When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, ‘The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field.'” Matt 9:36-38
Jesus’ compassion led Him to invite people into His presence, offering them the hope and healing they needed.
Think about a friend or colleague who may be going through a difficult time, struggling with anxiety or loneliness. A simple and loving invitation might sound like:
“I know you’ve been facing some challenges lately, and I want to invite you to join me at church this Sunday. It’s a place where we come together, support each other, and hear hope-filled messages that might encourage you.”
2. Build Genuine Relationships First
Bible Principle: Jesus built relationships with people before He called them to follow Him. He didn’t just offer an invitation from a distance; He got to know people and met their needs first. For example, in John 4:7-30, Jesus has a conversation with the Samaritan woman at the well. He doesn’t immediately ask her to follow Him but speaks with her in a personal, compassionate way.
Invite someone based on the friendship you have built. Rather than an abrupt or forced invitation, let it flow naturally from the relationship:
“Hey, I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you, and I wanted to invite you to my church sometime. It’s not about being perfect—it’s just a place where we’re all learning and growing together.”
This approach mirrors Jesus’ example of building trust and rapport before extending an invitation.
3. Invite for Special Events or Services
Bible Principle: Special events often provide a less intimidating way for people to experience church for the first time. Jesus used various occasions (like weddings, meals, and festivals) to invite others into His ministry. For example, in Luke 14:15-24, Jesus shares the Parable of the Great Banquet, where He encourages people to come to the feast, showing that the invitation to God’s kingdom is open to all.
Invite someone to a church event that might feel more accessible, such as a Christmas service, a community outreach event, or a free concert. For instance:
“We’re having a free community BBQ this Saturday at church, and I’d love for you to come. It’s a relaxed environment, and we’ll be talking about how we can serve each other in the community.”
Special events are often a more comfortable way to step into a church setting and learn more about what it’s all about.
4. Share Your Personal Testimony
Bible Principle: In 1 Peter 3:15, believers are called to be ready to share the hope that is within them:
“But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” 1 Peter 3:15
Your personal testimony is one of the most powerful tools in inviting someone to church. When you share how Jesus has impacted your life, it can resonate with others.
Share your story of how coming to church has changed your life:
“I was feeling really lost a few years ago, and when I started attending church, I found a sense of peace and purpose I had never experienced before. I know it might not be for everyone, but I think you’d really enjoy the sense of community we have there.”
Testimonies help people see that the Gospel is not just a set of beliefs but a transformative experience.
5. Invite with Sensitivity and Respect for Their Response
Bible Principle: When inviting others, it’s important to respect their freedom of choice. Jesus invited people, but He never forced anyone to follow Him. In Matt 19:21-22, when the rich young ruler asks Jesus what he must do to have eternal life, Jesus offers the invitation to follow Him. However, the man walks away sad because he cannot let go of his wealth. Jesus respects his decision and doesn’t force him to stay.
Respectful invitation doesn’t mean pressuring someone. If someone is hesitant or declines, don’t take it personally. Instead, offer the invitation again at a later time, leaving the door open. You might say:
“I understand if church isn’t something you’re interested in right now. Just know that the invitation is always open. If you ever feel like coming along, I’d be happy to go with you.”
6. Pray for Opportunities
Bible Principle: Prayer plays a vital role in inviting others. In Acts 1:14, we see the early disciples praying together as they awaited the power of the Holy Spirit. Prayer empowers and guides our outreach efforts, asking God to prepare hearts and open doors. In Col 4:3, Paul encourages believers to pray for opportunities to share the Gospel:
“And pray for us, too, that God may open a door for our message, so that we may proclaim the mystery of Christ…” Col 4:3
Before inviting someone to church, pray for them. Ask God to soften their heart, give you the right words, and create an opportunity for the invitation to be well-received. You might pray:
“Lord, I pray for [name]. Please open their heart to You, and give me the right words to invite them to church. I ask that this invitation leads to them experiencing Your love and truth.”
7. Be a Living Example
Bible Principle: Jesus’ life was the greatest invitation of all. He demonstrated what the kingdom of God looks like through His actions, teaching, and service. In Matt 5:14-16, Jesus says:
“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead, they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
Live in such a way that your life reflects the love, joy, and peace that comes from following Christ. People will be drawn to the example you set. For instance, if you are kind, generous, and forgiving, they may want to know more about the source of your peace, which opens up natural opportunities to invite them to church.
Inviting someone to church is a powerful act of love and service, and it can be a life-changing experience for those who are open to it. As we build relationships, share our testimonies, pray for opportunities, and live out the love of Christ, we can extend a meaningful invitation to others. Ultimately, our invitation should reflect Jesus’ heart for the lost and His desire to bring everyone into the family of God.
Take a moment to think about someone in your life who might need an invitation to church. Pray for them, build the relationship, and extend an invitation with love and respect, trusting God to work in their hearts.
Author
kay.alli@legalview.co.uk